Ten key points of cultural education for children

One, not to pay too much attention to the child, this is very easy to make the child too self-centered. Thinking that everyone should pay attention to him, the conclusion becomes a self-righteous person.

Two, do not have to bribe the child, to let the child since childhood to understand the correlation between rights and obligations, not to assume obligations can not enjoy the right to dominate.

Three, do not be too close to the child, should be motivated to live with the same age, learning training, fun, how can learn to interact with people.

Fourth, do not force the child to do something that can not be competent, most of the child's self-confidence is through the success of the errand and become, forcing them to do things that are beyond their ability, can only severely hit its confidence.

Fifth, do not have to be too strict and harsh on the child, and even scolded, which will allow the child to develop a lack of confidence, cowardice and avoidance and other unhealthy psychology. Or lead to resistance, tyranny, lying, running away and other a personal behavior.

Six do not deceive and unnecessarily scare the child to intimidate the child will lose the credibility of the parents in the eyes of the child.

Seven, do not have to openly accuse or make fun of the child in front of the little ones, that will lead to a state of mind where the child harbors hatred and shyness, endangering the child's self-esteem.

The child's performance in the examination, a little praise can be, too much praise will make the child dyed in the deception of the abnormal emotions.

The actual fact is that you will not be able to get a good deal on your own.

Ten, to help the child to analyze the environment of his region, to help children to solve problems, not to replace them to solve difficulties, should be taught to think about the problem-solving approach.

A story is shared below.

The first cultural education one gets in life comes from home, from the mother's early childhood education of the child. A famous American psychologist, in order to be able to scientifically study the harm of mothers on the path of life, selected 50 successful people in the electorate, all of whom had won extraordinary contributions in their respective fields. At the same time 50 more people with criminal records were selected. Each of them went to interview them by letter and asked them to talk about the harm their mothers did to it, and two of them replied that they talked about the same thing. When he was a child, his mother gave him an apple. The male offender wrote like this: Mom asked me and my brother: which one do we want? Little brother said in advance that he wanted the bigger and reddest one. Mom listened to glare at him, scolded him and said: "Good children should learn to give good things to others, not always feel self." I had an idea and said instead, "Mom, I want the one with the least. Give the bigger one to my little brother." Mom was very happy to hear that. She gave me a kiss on the face. I understood what I wanted, and after that I knew how to speak. After that I learned to fight and brawl and steal, and I did everything to get what I wanted, until now I am in jail.

This is what this successful person wrote:My brother and I both competed for the big one, and my mother said I would divide the grass at the entrance into three pieces. Everyone one piece, undertake to build a good who does the job faster and best is who will have dominant access to it, the three of us tournament hoeing, the conclusion I won that one of the largest apple, I am very grateful to my mother. She made me understand a very simple and major lesson: to be better you must strive to be first.

The hand that pushes the cradle is the hand that promotes the globe. A mother is a child's first teacher and can teach her to tell the first lie, and you can teach him to be an honest, always diligent person who strives to be first.